wife dismisses bipolar diagnosis for years, pregnant now with baby/spina bifida. Is there hope?
We’ve just been diagnosed at 18 weeks pregnant the baby has spina bifida. My wife continues to lie to the doctors about the severity of her behaviors/bipolar. She causes fights everyday at home. Life is totally unbearable. Now we find out she’s pregnant. I explained to the doctors she is getting worse, with symptoms of when she was baker acted last year, (3 times, twice suicide attempts). She insists on having this baby, even though she is totally afraid of the spina bifida diagnosis. I try to get support people to talk with her, but she immediately finds the problems and rages at me about them. She refuses to go to bipolar support meetings, saying she is being fingered out by everyone. She has gone so far as to say I created this and am using the bipolar diagnosis as an excuse to control her. I don’t know what to do. How are we going to have this baby born with her so out of control?
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this is way beyond a bunch of random strangers on the internet
you have to work with doctors, family, and friends to try to get her to see what’s going on
unfortunately unmediated bipolar people rarely see what they are doing unless something horrible happens
and it’s impossible to get them to take meds without convincing them they are sick or having them committed (which may be an option at this point – you need to discuss this option with the doctors – multiple doctors)
my mom is bi-polar which became more obvious when she stopped drinking when i was 3 – she didn’t get on the right meds until i was 24 because she just told them she was depressed and they just put her on anti-depressants that did nothing
i wish you lots of luck – i know how you feel… i can say there is a chance it will get better (my mom is GREAT now)
If she is really as bad off as you say she is, she doesn’t need to be taking care of a newborn. You need to insist your wife seek professional help, for the baby. With the right medication, your wife and yourself can life a “normal” life. My sister-in-law was diagnosed bipolar and, once she found a medication that worked for her, she is fine. We can all tell a big difference in her.
I wish the best for your family.
I have the same condition and I’m pregnant it’s her hormones making things alot worse and esp now with the worry of the baby having a serious condition. The only thing you can do is support her also do not make her go to those groups if she doesn’t want to because they are really not helpfull. I have stopped taking my Meds through my pregnancy and I find using a natural progesterone cream seems to help balance my hormones. Just be patient with her she’s havingba hard time. Good luck.