Im 22, he is 23.

He is bipolar, used you have mild mild schizophrenia. Has been on meds for 4 years now…

We have been dating 2 years…..

We fight alot. Some times he is the sweetest goofiest, nice loving person..

the next he is nasty, cursing, face turning red, hanging up on me, turn his phone off on me he is so mad…

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I know, I’m not stupid, of course there are relationships between people, no matter what kind of illness or healthiness there is. I am dating a 44 year old man who has bipolar, has a very overbearing mother, and is seeing a counselor. His parents tell him he shouldn’t have children, though he would make a great father. They also don’t want him in any kind of romantic relationship for some reason, either. Anyway, since we got together late August we’ve broken up 5 times and made up hours later due to the pressure from others around him, and not himself. I’m at the point where I expect a breakup everyday, and I don’t know what to feel anymore. I love him very much and we are engaged, but how can this work? Any advice?

Hi – I was recently diagnosed as having bipolar disorder, and am currently undergoing therapy and psychiatric treatment. I realize now that many of my relationships have been damaged because of this – especially my work relationships. One coworker in particular will no longer even talk to me. I feel horrible because of this, mainly because it was so out of my control until I got help, and there’s no real way to explain that to anyone without 1) the stigma of being “mentally ill” and 2) I honestly feel like people at my work are just fed up with me anyway.

I’ve been working with my HR department, and my boss knows about my condition. But I hate coming into work now, so ashamed of how I may have behaved in the past and sad about losing friends over this. What do I do about the relationships (or lack thereof) with my coworkers?

if i give her space then i’m ignoring her/i cant seem to win/seems like you never know which side of fence to jump/i’m very much in love with her and want to do everything to make it work.our intimacy is unlike any that we have both ever had/its dealing with walking on eggshells that i have problem with. any help i would greatly appreciate thank you

A while back I was diagnosed as bipolar. After a lot of different meds and some counseling I was eased off the meds and now am trying to take control on my own for 5 months now. I’ve been able to see my own warning signs and ask for help. So I live with my bf. I’m not working right now which is making me very depressed. Then about a week ago I found some letters he had wrote to his ex (long before we got together). Not a huge deal but, I brought it up to him and he kind of ignored me. So I’ve wanted to talk about it. The other night I had a terrible dream that we got in a fight. I woke up and was upset but we had a fun day planned so I let it go. When we got home (we had been drinking and a wine festival) I don’t know what set me off. I just flew off the handle and it was bad. I broke some picture frames and ripped up a bunch of out pictures. I went insane. It was NOT good. We talked and finally calmed down, but I feel like a jerk. What should I do??? Get back on meds?
I just want to add, although it sounds like an excuse, but when I get really manic I swear I don’t realize what I have done until its to late. My bf is very understanding, but this is so unfair to him. He is willing to just let it go, but I’m afraid doing that will make things worse.
Getting off the meds was my doctors idea. There are different stages to this and I am definetly not at the easiest to manage stage, but also not at the worst. I had just been working really hard to try to do things more naturally and getting off the meds was a big deal to me. But I will go back and maybe just try less meds.

I want to find out if I am bipolar. One moment I would want to break up with my boyfriend because of whatever problem that arises, and when he shows me affection, I find myself loving him again. This episode of wanting to break up for whatever reason that pops up and then loving him at the next moment has happened before in my last relationship. It’s like one moment I’m convinced he’s the one for me and the next I will be convinced that he is not and that I have never loved him at all becos I think I’ve never loved him from the beginning or there was no attraction or something. He’s the best thing in the world and I don’t know what is wrong with me with these moments of different feelings. I find myself falling in love easily. There’re many times I feel like I don’t need much rest. Like I have a lot of energy if I push myself through.

My boyfriend who was diagnosed as bipolar II 2 years ago is finally (sort of) coming to terms with his condition-rather, he knows he needs help but I’m wondering about his level of commitment to fixing/treating it. He recently had a suicidal episode and has agreed to enroll in a 2 week, 6 hour a day outpatient program with therapy and medication regulation with my and his family’s duress. I am glad he is finally agreeing to take a big step and do something about it, but I’m starting to doubt in my own mind the level of commitment to it. He hasn’t started yet, so I suppose I should cut him slack up until he actually starts the program. The only problem is that there might not be a slot for him for 3-4 weeks or more, so in the meantime, he’s manic currently and not medicated properly (his hasn’t been working since october), still is using pot/alcohol heavily when he’s not at his parents house (he moved back 5/7 nights a week but is hitting the bottle hard otherwise), and still engaging in but not meeting with girls on the net (I think the saving grace is he has anxiety so that keeps him in check).He, along with the program, is getting a new doctor that will meet with him 2-3 times a week (versus the one that was seeing him once a month) outside of the prorgram/once it is finished, plus give him a more indepth evalutaion. He claims he wants things to work out between us which i believe, but the stress is taking its toll on me. Plus, I feel like if he wanted it to work somewhat, he’d be making more of an attempt to work on cutting out the negatives (again, maybe this isn’t fair unti he starts the program).

My question is do I let his current behavior slide b/c I know he’s ‘off’ currently, but seeking help in the near future, or do I let him go and let him get help, and come back to me when he’s ready, or do i just bow out at this point, as he’s getting help finally and I’ve played my role in getting him there? I really care about him and at one point thought there was a definite future which we discussed, but for the last few months I haven’t been so sure. Do I walk away permanently and throw in the towel right before the finish line so to speak, take a break from everything while he starts dealing with his condition, or let him come find me in a few months, or continue being supportive despite his behavior and words? I’m really struggling with this because while I think it will all help, I wonder if he’ll be seriously committed to it or not. If he’s not and nothing changes at all, I can’t be a part of his life-and that’s the choice he’s made; I’m just reacting to it at this point.

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Ive been on meds for the past month and it has reallly made me realize how I acted with out them.. I dated my firs love for about 2 years and I treated her like complete crap she didnt deserve it and i didnt deserve her… She never gave up on me we didnt kno I was bipolar but I definatly had something wrong with me by how horribly i would treat her… As bad as I was to her she never wrote me off 2 and a half years we have been broken up and

we always remained on talking terms shes dating some one else now an it makes me sad I just want to make up for every time I made her feel bad for no reason but Im to late.. she lives a few blocks away its almost impossible to not think about her itleast once a day what should I do

I dated this girl for 2 and a half years we were each others first love we broke up becasue i was a Bipolar A$$ hole to her weve been apart for about 2 and a half years… through out that time she always tried talking to me or being my friend I couldnt understand why so I would just be mean to her so she would leave me alone becasue I new I didnt even deserve for her to talk to me plus im not tottaly stable….

Shes really been my best friend through all of my ups and really low lows even though we dont talk any more… shes seeing someone now but I want to contact her becasue she alwyas gives me good advice and she has alwyas been there what should i do leave her alone with her life or look for guidance where ever i can get it becasue i THINK i need it